Don't
Listen to the Negative if You Want Your Relationships to Thrive
By Ed Rigsbee, CSP
(417 words)
In a relationship, unfortunately, the negative
force generally is victorious over the positive. This "truth" is
almost always the case. If one wants the relationship to fail and one wants it
to succeed, you can be assured that the relationship will fail. How does it
affect you?
Ignore the Negative
I'm not suggesting that you become an ostrich and put your head in the sand
but rather suggesting that you limit negativity around you; especially people
that are negative on relationships. There is not much value in a sitting
around with relationship losers and commiserating about how their partners
were schmucks. If you allow this unfiltered negative information to enter your
subconscious, you are truly sabotaging your relationship(s). If you
unknowingly slip into the negative syndrome, you will surely kill your
relationship. Yes, I know it is work to overcome the negative...but how much
is your relationship worth to you?
Dealing with a Negative World
Think about it, the modern day media thrives on negative stories and
sensationalism. Are you letting their messages reach your subconscious mind in
an unfiltered manner? Do you leave the television or radio on for background
noise? If so, you are allowing all the negativity to reach your
mind--unfiltered--for the good of your relationship--stop it! Rather than
become a relationship loser yourself, facilitate nurturing, love, and respect
in all that you do. And, start by spending less time with your relationship
loser friends.
One of the greatest books that made a
difference in my life is, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. He talked
quite a bit about what you feed your mind. He suggested having your goals
written and reading them every night before retiring and every morning when
rising. He also suggested mental visualization exercises.
Feed Your Mind
Try this; at night before you retire spend a minute or two with your
"virtual" mastermind--persons in your head, living or dead, of whom
you respect their opinion. Ask for relationship guidance of these
"virtual" luminaries and let your own subconscious seek answers.
This is surely better than using relationship losers for guidance.
Here's the rub for women; if you buy what John
Grey says in Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (and I do) then you will
always be fighting the tendency to solve your relationship problems by
committee--asking several of your friends for their advice--and this is an
affront to trusting yourself.
Want wonderful relationships? Be careful to
whom you listen...
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Rigsbee
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Ed Rigsbee, CSP, for over two
decades, as the speaker on relationships has been helping business individuals and organizations of
all sizes to grow their market through smart alliance
relationships--while at the same time helping individuals to develop
what he calls Relationship Glue for their personal lives. He
is also the author of PartnerShift-How to Profit from the
Partnering Trend and The Art of Partnering. Rigsbee has
over 1,500 hard-copy published articles to his credit and is a
regular keynote presenter at corporate and trade association
conferences teaching North America how to access their Collaborative
Advantage through the steps he shares in his writing and
lectures. You can access all Ed's Web Sites and Blogs through www.rigsbee.com.
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