Remember
the Little Things for Relationship Success
By Ed Rigsbee, CSP
(430 words)
Sure, you have heard it said time, and
again...It's the little things that'll kill you. Funny thing is...it's true!
In relationship building, it's in the attention to details. Guys, ever make
the fatal mistake of not noticing the fact that your honey got a hair cut?
Sure death!
Obligatory is Just That for Relationship
Success
Doing something special for your special someone on only the obligatory days
is simply the "table stakes," the minimum just to get into the game.
What are the obligatory days? You know; Valentine's Day, Birthday, Christmas,
etc. Gifts on those obligatory days do little more than give your special
someone "bragging rights." "Look what he/she got for me!"
Only doing something on the obligatory days is the domain of Relationship
Losers. And trust me, that is not where you want to be.
The Unexpected Times for Relationship Success
This is where you earn real relationship points. To be a Relationship Winner,
you had better work on making relationship points, at the minimum of twice a
week--daily is much better. To earn a relationship point, you do not have to
spend money, better yet, spend your time. That's how the real points are
earned. For guys, your unexpected kindness could be as simple as making the
bed, getting up first and making the coffee, washing the dishes...actually
anything considered "domestic" is a great place to start--especially
considering that could very well be where you fall down, relationship points
wise, the most. Also, for your special someone; write a poem or leave a love
note--big relationship points there. In this area, there are no rules, just
great ideas. For the gals, this is your specialty so I do not need to go into
details. However, remember that it is what he wants, not what you want. This
is not the place to ascribe to the Golden Rule as that would be doing what you
want.
Small Gestures Daily for Relationship Success
If you can, daily endeavor to offer a small and unexpected gesture of love,
respect, and appreciation for your special someone. These little things will
go a long way in building a strong relationship foundation, and will surely
eliminate most of the complaining your partner might put forth. Each gesture
is another Relationship Bank Deposit that collectively, over time, will add up
to a huge relationship nest egg. And trust me, stuff surely happens--no matter
who you are. One day, you'll be amazingly grateful for all the little things
that you did for your sweetie. Small things add up. Small things matter.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Rigsbee
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Ed Rigsbee, CSP, for over two
decades, as the speaker on relationships has been helping business individuals and organizations of
all sizes to grow their market through smart alliance
relationships--while at the same time helping individuals to develop
what he calls Relationship Glue for their personal lives. He
is also the author of PartnerShift-How to Profit from the
Partnering Trend and The Art of Partnering. Rigsbee has
over 1,500 hard-copy published articles to his credit and is a
regular keynote presenter at corporate and trade association
conferences teaching North America how to access their Collaborative
Advantage through the steps he shares in his writing and
lectures. You can access all Ed's Web Sites and Blogs through www.rigsbee.com.
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